by Rich Murphy
There was a study done several years ago that came to the conclusion that only 30% of married women have orgasms. That was taken to mean that only 30% are capable of having orgasm. Unfortunately, this was a incorrect conclusion.
From our studies, all women (unless they have a medical problem) are capable of multiple orgasms. Basically, on the biological side, an orgasm consists of several contractions or spasms run together. Multiple orgasms just means having that happen several times during a lovemaking session. It is also possible for a woman to have so many that they just run together.
There are a few main factors involved in causing a woman to have an orgasm.
1) The woman's emotions. For a woman to get the most out of the sexual encounter, she must totally yield of herself. This is impossible in a situation where there is tension, or lack of trust in the marriage.
2) Sexual frequency. The more time that passes between sexual encounters, the harder it is for a woman to become aroused, and the less likely a woman is to have an orgasm. We have found that most women have what we call a "36 hour window." If she doesn't have sex within 36 hours of her last encounter, you're starting all over again. However, if she does have sex again within that period of time, she is emotionally and physically "warmed up" and can get emotionally involved in the sexual encounter much easier.
3) Men have a physical need for sexual release every 24 to 72 hours (depending on health, age, emotions, and diet). If the couple isn't having sex that often, he will ejaculate too quickly for the woman to have an orgasm.
4) Frankly, in our society, we don't teach men and women how to please each other sexually. The average couple starting out in marriage only knows what they learned by experimenting during their dating days. Some cultures actually teach men and women how to stimulate their spouses, so that they can have a better marriage.
There are also two different types of orgasms that women can have, based on the two different zones of stimulation. The first is a clitoral orgasm, which is the most common. The clitoris is stimulated by light touch, and must be wet. The second type of orgasm is a vaginal orgasm. This comes from pressure being applied to the "G" spot, usually by the tip of the man's penis. The G spot is located on the anterior wall of the vagina, about 2 inches from the opening.
There is a definite difference in how these two orgasms "feel." Women who have had both can sense that they are different. That is because the major nerve connected to the clitoris is different from the one connected to the G spot.
Some sexual positions are easier for stimulating the G spot. The two that are most commonly recommended are:
a) Man laying on his back, with woman kneeling, straddling him.
b) Woman laying on her stomach, with man on top, entering her vagina from behind.
Either of these positions causes the natural angle of the erect penis to press strongly against the G spot.
It is possible to increase the woman's possibility of having an orgasm by performing Keegal exercises. Dr. Keegal started his patients doing these exercises to help prevent problems in childbirth. The increase of orgasms was a side benefit. This exercise strengthens the PC muscle, surrounding the vagina. Like any exercise, it must be done against resistance. So, you will need to insert something inside your vagina, like a finger or...(I'll leave it to your imagination). Contract the muscle and hold it for a few seconds, then relax it. Repeat several times.
Copyright © 1998 by Richard A. Murphy, Maranatha Life All rights reserved.